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- Google's Leadership Rules
Posted by Claude on Friday 25th November 2011 at 13:52:00
- The King's Speech for Leaders
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th August 2011 at 18:23:53
- Increasing the Bench Strength of your Leadership Pipeline
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 20th June 2011 at 07:09:47
- Black Swans draw eyes onto the Leader
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 16th May 2011 at 21:06:51
- The Court of Conscience
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 5th April 2011 at 15:12:36
- No Margin No Good
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 2nd March 2011 at 11:36:24
- How will you Lead in 2011?
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 17th January 2011 at 10:57:48
- Water what You want to Grow
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 31st December 2010 at 12:27:25
- Start a Virtuous Cycle & Create a Winning Team
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th November 2010 at 10:13:21
- With people, slow is fast
Posted by Claude Warner on Sunday 19th September 2010 at 18:24:55
- Leading without Title
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 24th August 2010 at 15:32:02
- Waking the Sleepwalkers
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 15th July 2010 at 12:49:57
- The Goose and the Golden Egg
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 9th June 2010 at 22:20:07
- What is really Important?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 14th May 2010 at 11:52:05
- When Important becomes Urgent
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 27th April 2010 at 10:42:20
- It Starts at the Top!
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 11th November 2009 at 14:30:10
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 14:40:11
Communication
- Listening is not Understanding
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 17th February 2010 at 21:10:49
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:13:59
- How to Connect with Customers and Clients
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 10th February 2010 at 11:25:06
- Communication - the lifeblood of a (business) community
Posted by Claude on Thursday 29th October 2009 at 14:51:18
Emotional Intelligence
- 1 + 1 = 3
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 20th October 2010 at 14:49:28
- All is not as it appears (to you)
Posted by Claude Warner on Saturday 3rd April 2010 at 10:11:52
- The Truth about Your Stress
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 22nd January 2010 at 16:19:46
- Overcoming the Limiting Power of Assumption
Posted by Claude on Monday 27th July 2009 at 16:33:48
Successful Living
- Being Aware of Being Aware
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 13th April 2010 at 13:50:47
- Don't just work yourself, work on yourself
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 16:26:11
- Does the world know the real you?
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 5th January 2010 at 14:43:47
- Is the journey the end or the means?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 27th November 2009 at 14:28:18
- My Vision and Mission
Posted by Claude on Friday 18th September 2009 at 11:45:09
- The 'Ensuement' of Happiness and Success
Posted by Claude on Friday 24th July 2009 at 17:39:22
Wisdom
- Since I accepted inevitability, I see possibility
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 25th February 2010 at 08:56:12
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:18:00
- A Man is never Powerless
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 25th January 2010 at 15:32:29
- Precepts of Wisdom
Posted by Claude on Monday 26th October 2009 at 14:31:33
Does the world know the real you?
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 5th January 2010 at 14:43:47
The world could be described as the community where the human family lives.
The question is, how do you live in this world? Who is the you that the world gets to know?
Is it the real you, where how you live on the outside is a reflection of you who are on the inside, where your interaction with your fellow “world” members is based on your willingness to be known as you are, regardless of what they might think about you, or of how what they think of you would make you feel?
Or, is the you that the world gets to know another you, worn over the top of the real you? Is it a you that you have created to please or impress this community? Is it a you that hides your fears, your vulnerability, your humanity even?
Is your statement in approaching the world “This is who I am?”, or is it “This is who I want you to think I am”, or even further down the spiral, is it “Who do you want me to be?”
Obviously the starting point is to know yourself, your values, your purpose, your strengths as well as your weaknesses; to know what makes you come alive.
If you are clear on this, then the next question then is to say “How I am going to show up in the world”?
Many of us don’t like ourselves, we are afraid that we are not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, strong enough, pretty enough, and so on.
Rather than risk being known for who we really are, we play it safe. We find a safe job, working for a safe company, making safe decisions. Some of us actually become very successful. We find something that we are good at, and from that skill we build our world.
There is nothing wrong in playing to your strengths; in fact I would encourage you to do so. The question here is motive. Are you successful at XYZ because that is what you really want to do, because you are motivated to do so, because it makes you come alive? If the answer is yes, then great, but if no, then you are not being authentic or real.
People can smell phony a mile off, even a well constructed one, and sooner or later your false self will be exposed. Even if you do manage to convince others that how they are experiencing you is the real deal, how do you feel on the inside? Do you feel good about yourself, or are you ashamed, which makes you feel even worse? How does this affect your capacity? Are you resilient, able to overcome life’s challenges from this place, or does it just get harder and harder?
Sooner or later you are likely to say to yourself on the inside, “Enough is enough, I want to be me. I want to do what makes my heart come alive, not what the world wants or expects”.
One of my defining statements has been “Ask not what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive. Go and do that, for what the world needs is more people who are fully alive”.
What makes you come alive? What would fire you up so much that you look forward to getting up in the morning, day after day? What would you want to do for the shear enjoyment of it, even if you didn’t get paid?
If you are able to answer that question, then what in the world are you waiting for?
The “world” (the collective of all the false selves in our community) does not celebrate real people; in fact it fears them, because every real person shows up all the other phonies. It will do all it can to pull you back down with statements like “Who do you think you are?”, “What makes you so special?”
But isn’t the freedom of your heart a prize worth fighting and risking for.
Isn’t it time for the world to get know the real you, to feel your “weight”.
There is a statement by St. Irenaeus which says that “The glory of God is many fully alive”.
Knowing the source, why settle for anything less?
Article also published on Selfgrowth.com
Understanding the influence of our personal example, Personal Leadership Development coaching seeks to develop our ability to understand and manage our own emotions and our ability to relate to, understand and respond to other people and the situations within which we encounter them (Emotional Intelligence), our ability to find meaning and purpose from which we are inspired and motivated (Spiritual Intelligence), as well as our ability to think rationally, logically, critically, strategically, and systemically. (Thinking Intelligence or IQ).
Claude’s coaching style is dynamic and shifts between a structured and systemic approach, and a relational and intuitive approach, informed by whichever approach best serves the clients' style and agenda.
Claude coaches Executives and business leaders nationally via in-person and telephonic coaching. He can be contacted 083 227 5153 or info@claudewarner.com. Further information is available on www.claudewarner.com
Article also published on Selfgrowth.com
Claude Warner is an Executive Coach specializing in Personal Leadership Development, which is the development of our personal leadership in order to be able to lead others more effectively in a business context.
Understanding the influence of our personal example, Personal Leadership Development coaching seeks to develop our ability to understand and manage our own emotions and our ability to relate to, understand and respond to other people and the situations within which we encounter them (Emotional Intelligence), our ability to find meaning and purpose from which we are inspired and motivated (Spiritual Intelligence), as well as our ability to think rationally, logically, critically, strategically, and systemically. (Thinking Intelligence or IQ).
Claude’s coaching style is dynamic and shifts between a structured and systemic approach, and a relational and intuitive approach, informed by whichever approach best serves the clients' style and agenda.
Claude coaches Executives and business leaders nationally via in-person and telephonic coaching. He can be contacted 083 227 5153 or info@claudewarner.com. Further information is available on www.claudewarner.com
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