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- Google's Leadership Rules
Posted by Claude on Friday 25th November 2011 at 13:52:00
- The King's Speech for Leaders
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th August 2011 at 18:23:53
- Increasing the Bench Strength of your Leadership Pipeline
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 20th June 2011 at 07:09:47
- Black Swans draw eyes onto the Leader
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 16th May 2011 at 21:06:51
- The Court of Conscience
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 5th April 2011 at 15:12:36
- No Margin No Good
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 2nd March 2011 at 11:36:24
- How will you Lead in 2011?
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 17th January 2011 at 10:57:48
- Water what You want to Grow
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 31st December 2010 at 12:27:25
- Start a Virtuous Cycle & Create a Winning Team
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th November 2010 at 10:13:21
- With people, slow is fast
Posted by Claude Warner on Sunday 19th September 2010 at 18:24:55
- Leading without Title
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 24th August 2010 at 15:32:02
- Waking the Sleepwalkers
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 15th July 2010 at 12:49:57
- The Goose and the Golden Egg
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 9th June 2010 at 22:20:07
- What is really Important?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 14th May 2010 at 11:52:05
- When Important becomes Urgent
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 27th April 2010 at 10:42:20
- It Starts at the Top!
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 11th November 2009 at 14:30:10
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 14:40:11
Communication
- Listening is not Understanding
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 17th February 2010 at 21:10:49
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:13:59
- How to Connect with Customers and Clients
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 10th February 2010 at 11:25:06
- Communication - the lifeblood of a (business) community
Posted by Claude on Thursday 29th October 2009 at 14:51:18
Emotional Intelligence
- 1 + 1 = 3
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 20th October 2010 at 14:49:28
- All is not as it appears (to you)
Posted by Claude Warner on Saturday 3rd April 2010 at 10:11:52
- The Truth about Your Stress
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 22nd January 2010 at 16:19:46
- Overcoming the Limiting Power of Assumption
Posted by Claude on Monday 27th July 2009 at 16:33:48
Successful Living
- Being Aware of Being Aware
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 13th April 2010 at 13:50:47
- Don't just work yourself, work on yourself
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 16:26:11
- Does the world know the real you?
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 5th January 2010 at 14:43:47
- Is the journey the end or the means?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 27th November 2009 at 14:28:18
- My Vision and Mission
Posted by Claude on Friday 18th September 2009 at 11:45:09
- The 'Ensuement' of Happiness and Success
Posted by Claude on Friday 24th July 2009 at 17:39:22
Wisdom
- Since I accepted inevitability, I see possibility
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 25th February 2010 at 08:56:12
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:18:00
- A Man is never Powerless
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 25th January 2010 at 15:32:29
- Precepts of Wisdom
Posted by Claude on Monday 26th October 2009 at 14:31:33
Since I accepted inevitability, I see possibility
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 25th February 2010 at 08:56:12
1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:18:00
For most of us our goal in life is to be comfortable. For instance, we want just enough money to be able to live a “comfortable life”.
We don’t necessarily seek the passion of fulfilling great visions, or the other extreme of apathy and despair. For many of us our lives are focused on securing as comfortable and pain-free existence as possible.
However, painful situations do inevitably come in life, and whilst they are painful, they can bring a gift.
The gift is the gift of an opportunity. Nobody would rightfully seek to lose their job, be missed out for a promotion, have a poor performance review, and so on, but when it does happen, you have a choice.
You can succumb to the pain and allow it to drag you down into victim mode, leading to unproductive and even destructive behaviour.
Or, you can choose to use the pain of this situation as an opportunity to make change, to improve, to study, to find a mentor or coach, to cultivate new relationships or let go of toxic ones.
Most of us fear the uncertainty that change brings. If we had a guarantee that we would be able to achieve our goals and dreams without the risk of failure, we would all be living amazingly abundant lives.
However, because change is unpredictable and risky, we hold back, potentially missing out on the things we would really love to do, and becoming the people we really would love to be.
But what if that risk was removed? Would it then not be so much easier to make that change?
Unexpected change in life can effectively remove this risk. Admittedly, it replaces it with another risk, possibly even a greater one, but it is a risk that has upside potential.
To illustrate, we might hate our job or the career we are in, but we are too afraid to quite our job or seek a new career. If we are laid off, this risk is removed.
We cannot fear quitting our job when we don’t have one. There is now of course the greater risk that we are unemployed and not going to be earning any income, which has other implications.
The upside potential though, is that we are now free to apply for the job that we have been wanting to apply for, free to re-skill ourselves for a new career.
Although the above is a simplistic view on change and emotional pain, it does illustrate a fundamental point, which is that the pain of what we perceive as calamity can in fact herald an opportunity.
If approached with the correct attitude, this opportunity can lead to an outcome that you would not ordinarily and voluntarily have sought out yourself.
This is the gift that painful situations can bring, and which could aptly be expressed on a bumper sticker.
Since I accepted inevitability, I see possibility
Claude Warner coaches successful leaders to improve their leadership performance through developing their emotional, relational, social and communication skills.
Comment submitted by Claude Warner on Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:18:00
Sometimes, if we are humble, we need to take our own advice.
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