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- Google's Leadership Rules
Posted by Claude on Friday 25th November 2011 at 13:52:00
- The King's Speech for Leaders
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th August 2011 at 18:23:53
- Increasing the Bench Strength of your Leadership Pipeline
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 20th June 2011 at 07:09:47
- Black Swans draw eyes onto the Leader
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 16th May 2011 at 21:06:51
- The Court of Conscience
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 5th April 2011 at 15:12:36
- No Margin No Good
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 2nd March 2011 at 11:36:24
- How will you Lead in 2011?
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 17th January 2011 at 10:57:48
- Water what You want to Grow
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 31st December 2010 at 12:27:25
- Start a Virtuous Cycle & Create a Winning Team
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 8th November 2010 at 10:13:21
- With people, slow is fast
Posted by Claude Warner on Sunday 19th September 2010 at 18:24:55
- Leading without Title
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 24th August 2010 at 15:32:02
- Waking the Sleepwalkers
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 15th July 2010 at 12:49:57
- The Goose and the Golden Egg
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 9th June 2010 at 22:20:07
- What is really Important?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 14th May 2010 at 11:52:05
- When Important becomes Urgent
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 27th April 2010 at 10:42:20
- It Starts at the Top!
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 11th November 2009 at 14:30:10
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 14:40:11
Communication
- Listening is not Understanding
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 17th February 2010 at 21:10:49
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:13:59
- How to Connect with Customers and Clients
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 10th February 2010 at 11:25:06
- Communication - the lifeblood of a (business) community
Posted by Claude on Thursday 29th October 2009 at 14:51:18
Emotional Intelligence
- 1 + 1 = 3
Posted by Claude Warner on Wednesday 20th October 2010 at 14:49:28
- All is not as it appears (to you)
Posted by Claude Warner on Saturday 3rd April 2010 at 10:11:52
- The Truth about Your Stress
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 22nd January 2010 at 16:19:46
- Overcoming the Limiting Power of Assumption
Posted by Claude on Monday 27th July 2009 at 16:33:48
Successful Living
- Being Aware of Being Aware
Posted by Claude on Tuesday 13th April 2010 at 13:50:47
- Don't just work yourself, work on yourself
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 9th March 2010 at 16:26:11
- Does the world know the real you?
Posted by Claude Warner on Tuesday 5th January 2010 at 14:43:47
- Is the journey the end or the means?
Posted by Claude Warner on Friday 27th November 2009 at 14:28:18
- My Vision and Mission
Posted by Claude on Friday 18th September 2009 at 11:45:09
- The 'Ensuement' of Happiness and Success
Posted by Claude on Friday 24th July 2009 at 17:39:22
Wisdom
- Since I accepted inevitability, I see possibility
Posted by Claude Warner on Thursday 25th February 2010 at 08:56:12
- 1 comment on this post - most recent Monday 1st March 2010 at 13:18:00
- A Man is never Powerless
Posted by Claude Warner on Monday 25th January 2010 at 15:32:29
- Precepts of Wisdom
Posted by Claude on Monday 26th October 2009 at 14:31:33
The 'Ensuement' of Happiness and Success
Posted by Claude on Friday 24th July 2009 at 17:39:22
So many of us set goals such as “I want to be successful, and/or wealthy, and/or happy”, and so on.
These are noble goals, but as goals within and of themselves, they can be problematic. Often, the more we pursue something, the more elusive it becomes. We might say for instance that for us to be happy, we need to achieve a certain monthly income.
The problem is, what happens once we achieve that amount? We might be happy that we have achieved our goal, but will we continue to be happy? After a while achieving this level of income may no longer make us happy? We might get bored, frustrated and demotivated, so what do we then do?
Do we increase our “Income to be happy” goal, and if so, to how much. Even if we are able to reach our ever increasing target, eventually the question has to be asked “How much is enough?” How much will really make me happy? Will money as such ever truly make me happy.
There has to be something more than the outright pursuit of wealth, success or happiness.
Victor Frankl, in his well known work titled “Man’s Search for Meaning”, has this to say about success “Don't aim at success--the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.”
As Frankl says, happiness and success must ensue. It cannot be pursued. You have to let it happen, or conversely, it will happen, exactly because you are not cared about it and you are not pursuing it. Happiness and success will ensue as a by-product of the process of pursuing meaning and purpose.
Meaning and purpose are two of the principles on which Danah Zohar bases the concept of Spiritual Intelligence in her work “Spiritual Intelligence – The Ultimate Intelligence”. She describes Spiritual Intelligence as the intelligence by which we access our deepest meanings, values, purposes, and highest motivations.
Both writers speak of meaning. What is meaning? The on-line dictionary Answers.com speaks of meaning as something that is of “Inner Significance”.
In Frankl’s case he saw this Inner Significance being achieved by pursuing something that is “unique and specific in that it must and can be fulfilled by that personal alone”.
Meaning can come from doing or achieving something. Meaning can also come from enduring something, which in Frankl’s case was primarily around finding meaning in suffering. Frankl, quoting the philosopher Nietzsche, said that “He who has a why (meaning) to live can bear with almost any how.
Frankl’s counsel to people is to “listen” to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long run (and he emphasizes that it is in the long run), success and happiness will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.
The question then to all of us is what is it in our lives that is of Inner Significance to us. What is our why?
Once it is clear what is meaningful to us, we can pursue that, and happiness and success will ensue.
Claude Warner is an Executive Coach specializing in Personal Leadership Development, which is the development of our personal leadership in order to be able to lead others more effectively in a business context.
Understanding the influence of our personal example, Personal Leadership Development coaching seeks to develop our ability to understand and manage our own emotions and our ability to relate to, understand and respond to other people and the situations within which we encounter them (Emotional Intelligence), our ability to find meaning and purpose from which we are inspired and motivated (Spiritual Intelligence), as well as our ability to think rationally, logically, critically, strategically, and systemically. (Thinking Intelligence or IQ).
Claude’s coaching style is dynamic and shifts between a structured and systemic approach, and a relational and intuitive approach, informed by whichever approach best serves the clients' style and agenda.
Claude coaches Executives and business leaders nationally via in-person and telephonic coaching. He can be contacted 083 227 5153 or info@claudewarner.com. Further information is available on www.claudewarner.com
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